Read on to find out which dates are best for each week of the month….
Week 1: Make it silly
First day of period to Day 7
Play a round of miniature golf, visit an arcade or do anything else that’s the kind of fun you used to enjoy as a kid. Rising estrogen is putting you in the mood to be silly, but it’s still low enough that you have a preference for activities you’ve done before rather than trying something brand-new and slightly dangerous, like zip lining. Rising estrogen also has you preferring a group date or a date where other people are around since it amps up your desire to socialize. Your sex drive is quite high this week and orgasms are intense, so sex is also a fun option. Have your period and prefer no-mess sex? Try the Instead Softcup, which is a handy diaphragm-shaped menstrual product that goes inside you like a tampon, then unfolds to cover your cervix, discreetly collecting menstrual fluid without your partner ever knowing it’s that time of the month. (Note: I’m not paid to endorse the Instead Softcup; it’s just a one-of-a-kind product I like.)
Week 2: Rev excitement
Day 8 to ovulation (which is Day 14 in a 28-day cycle)
This is the week you’ll wanna try that zip lining thing. And rollercoasters that go in mega-loops. And seriously scary rock climbing adventures. And practically anything that gets your heart thumping now that high estrogen and testosterone make you bold, confident, impulsive and willing to take a risk. A big one! That’s because these hormones help trigger a more powerful surge of the pleasure-inducing brain chemical dopamine whenever you do new high-flying acts, which is kind of like a fraternity bro egging you on at a kegger. And, good news: Research shows that thrills actually bring you and your honey closer. That’s because you subconsciously attribute the heart-pounding reaction you get from doing the activity with the feelings you have for each other, which revs attraction. A big bonus: Your sex drive peaks this week and orgasms are at their highest intensity, so this is also a great week to try out interesting new antics in the bedroom.
Week 3: Get romantic
Begins day after ovulation and lasts 8 days (which is Day 15 to Day 22 in a 28-day cycle)
Welcome to the B-side of your cycle where you feel totally opposite of how you did during Week 1 and Week 2. Thanks to rising progesterone–which slows you down, makes you less social and triggers cravings–you prefer fewer people around, quieter settings and, if possible, lots and lots of yummy comfort food within easy reach. Progesterone, a known libido-killer, has your sex drive making a mad dash for the border along with your ability to climax (and the orgasms you do have are seriously ho-hum compared to last week), but you still enjoy hand-holding, caresses and wonderful massages. This makes it a great week of your cycle to go to a romantic restaurant, take a leisurely stroll in the rain, rent a rowboat and relax on a pond or enjoy a quiet lunch in a museum atrium.
Week 4: Go for the giggle
Final 6 days of your cycle
Your premenstrual week is all about doing activities that buoy your mood by pumping up feel-good brain chemicals, which plunge as estrogen nosedives. And the best way to do that is to plan a date that makes you laugh. Head to a comedy club, watch a funny movie or simply go to that spot in the park where all the rollerbladers hit that bump in the sidewalk that sends them flying. Bonus: After a one-week haitus during Week 3, your sex drive and orgasmic ability return with a vengeance, so take advantage of your high libido to enjoy some adult play-time, which also boosts mood-lifting brain chemicals. Just be sure to have a bottle of personal lubricant on hand since plunging estrogen makes it difficult to produce moisture, which can make sex a bit chafey.
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